Volume Review

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Published: 13/09/2016, Category: Self Help, Not-Fiction Author: Marking Manson

"The desire for more positive is a negative experience & paradoxically the credence of negative is a positive experience" – Marking Manson

Can we e'er be wrong? Can we make pain a medicine to be a medicine for our pain? Can suffering enhance value of happiness? Can nosotros hold ourselves responsible for what others & the life situations practice to the states? Are nosotros trying to exist immortal?

Lets Find Out

The above quote would surely alone qualify this volume as counterintuitive. Then nosotros have had all the laws of attraction pulling us to pull the almost positive fantasy imaginations to ourselves, to make lives better & hither nosotros accept someone whose got an altogether different opinion to what you have been taught, past all the self help books.

Information technology starts from the perspective – and a practical one – of trying to live a realistic life by accepting more realistic outcomes for yourself. The author stresses upon the non-acceptance of the myth of a problem free life versus achieving happiness past facing your problems and achieving happiness past indelible your pain & attaining joy through solving your life's minor & catastrophic problems. He talks at length near what he calls 'feedback loop from hell', focusing on the concept of focusing as well hard or 'giving besides many fucks' most giving all the fucks that we give. The narrative moves from the rhetoric of trying to find more important things to worry virtually (you lot can replace worry with 'giving a fuck', which Marker uses instead in the book) than appropriation over a stain, a waiter happened to crusade as he spilled some wine while servicing your table.

Some proficient insights emerge when the book takes on a practical approach almost what & how unimportant worries & hollow sense of achievements are making people superficial & more stressed. The invincible role of social media & deadly marketing strategies leading to an ever so wannabe, I-want-information technology-all approach to life & its impact on people & their lives & happiness, is well highlighted. The way the volume urges yous to take a deep insightful introspection into your ain life is not an easily digestible pill unless someone is really bully to take on that path. It is not meant for those looking for shortcuts of the, 'have a few deep breaths & imagine yourself on the pinnacle of a hill, stay there, stay there & now open your eyes' kind. Its a book which yous either read merely for fun sake & imagine to yourself 'really? do such people exist? Am non one of them' & move on or actually accept a deep swoop equally the book expects y'all to.

Some of the best value improver that you can hope to get out of this wonderful book can be summed upwards every bit:

Highlights

  • Why people struggle to stay happy?
  • Why people pretend to be happy while they are non?
  • How the Demon of self-importance (entitlement) is making life difficult
  • How pain can and must, exist taken positively
  • How & why it is important to accept responsibleness for your own problems & how information technology is the most efficient way of coming out of them.
  • How suffering enhances experience & value of joy.
  • How to introspect? As the writer calls 'cocky awareness onion' & its iii layers
  • Why is office of relativity important when measuring happiness & success?
  • How to evaluate your personal values (if your actually attempt) in an unbiased fashion.
  • How to modify your view of yourself from 'I am e'er right' to 'What if I am always incorrect'?
  • How relationships can get better or how to best decide if they are worth having in the beginning place.
  • Acceptance of human & one'south mortality every bit a panacea for all genre of freedom for self.

It's a lot of good things to take away. I usually go for a book if it offers half of what this one does. It's a great read for those who take at least a desire for a sensible approach to helping themselves.

As well the way Marker describes in the stop pages nigh Ernest Becker & his immortality projects' concept of human being behaviour & psychology, makes you sit back in your armchair & contemplate the meaning of your entire life.

-YR